Stonewalling

Stonewalling is about shutting down from aggressive communication. It is about giving up or withdrawing emotionally. But it also closes the door to resolution. Stonewallers often withdraw when they feel overwhelmed with their emotions, or as a way of protecting themselves from hurtful or stressful conflicts.  It typically sends a message of distance and disapproval to their partners. Couples therapy helps to communicate less passively, less aggressively, and in ways that feel safer to both. Alternatives to stonewalling and shutting down, when you are feeling frustrated, confused, or overwhelmed by a conflict, are part of the communication tools you will gain in counseling.

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It is essential for couples to identify and address these negative communication patterns in order to cultivate healthy and constructive ways of relating to each other. By replacing these destructive patterns with positive communication skills such as active listening, empathy, and respect, couples can foster healthier and more fulfilling relationships.